The attack on marriage is really an attack on the human person, and his dignity, for the devil seeks to pervert our true purpose, to pervert God's holy design. For many of us, we cannot march in protests or write dozens of letters or call numerous times to urge legislators to vote for the Truth. But one thing we can all do is pray and fast. We have designated one day each week to fast for these intentions:

1. That marriage may be preserved, promoted, and understood as God's plan for creation.

2. For all marriages that they may reflect the love of the Trinity.

3. For broken marriages that Christ bring healing and conversion to the spouses' souls.

4. For those who are married, for the sanctification of their marriage and their spouse. For those who are single, for their future spouse and vocation.


Thursday, June 1, 2023

June 2nd Fast

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"Consider often that it is only the humble of heart that can enter into the Sacred Heart of Jesus Christ. Converse with him. Love Him and be loved by Him." (St. Margaret Mary Alacoque)

June is the month dedicated to the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus. The Heart of the Savior is the symbol of Jesus' total gift of self, his fathomless mercy and sacrificial love. Devotion to the Sacred Heart is aided by pious practices and worthy traditions but true devotion must consist in an earnest desire to pattern one's whole life on the model of His chosen Master. One who adores this tenderest of Hearts uses the example of Our Dear Lord's self-denying love as his guide in all his daily actions. Learning to reject self-indulgence—be it emotional or physical— he understands that there is no gain in a win for his will, only loss of an opportunity to grow in love. A true disciple of the Sacred Heart welcomes— or at least accepts— opportunities to deny himself a pleasure, be it ever so small. 

The invitation to sacrifice does not appeal to one out of duty or tradition or expectation; rather, the call to give the gift of himself is motivated by a firm decision to love.  Often, it requires acts of the will— devoid of feeling, deprived of consolation,  —but always it is a conscious decision to see others as He sees them, to love others as He loves them. It is the high call to practice charity— despite weariness, ingratitude and indifference— in imitation of Him but also united with Him. How little there is to lose and how much there is to gain when one says no to self and yes to love!

"Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, teach me an entire forgetfulness of myself since that is the only way one can find entrance into you." (St. Claude de la Columbiere)

 




 


Thursday, May 4, 2023

May 5th Fast

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"We would wish to fall generously, nobly…What an illusion! We would never want to fall? What does it matter, Jesus, if I fall at each moment? It shows me my weakness and for this reason is a great gain for me. It shows you what I am able to do and now you will be more tempted to carry me in your arms." 
(St. Therese)

In the well known play Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw, a common flower girl, Eliza Doolitle, seeks to employ Henry Higgins upon learning that he can help her garner a position selling flowers in a shop rather than hocking them off the street.  Spurned after hearing her "Lisson Grove lingo", Eliza foolishly believes that her conveyance in a taxi will impress Higgins, persuading him that she is a woman of worth and wealth. The reader may smile at the girl's ridiculous reasoning, but also pities her for her ignorance.

How our heavenly Father must look upon man in the same way as one looks at this simple London girl! He observes man trying desperately to impress others with his worth and prowess but only succeeds in displaying the absurdity of his claim.  It is in refusing to recognize his deficiencies that man finds frustration. It it his constant fear of humiliation which depresses and discourages him. 

What an irony it is that the one creature who could have boasted of her perfections, rejoiced in her limitations! Mary, our dearest Mother, shines in her humility as man grovels in his hubris. Yet he need not continue to be thwarted by unrealistic and unattainable ambitions—be they material or spiritual.  Rather, he must not only take Mary as his model, but truly claim her as his helper. For she surely supported St. Joseph in his moments of discouragement when he strove to provide for the Holy Family.  And undoubtedly she encouraged the apostles when they struggled to carry out the task Her Son commissioned them to do.  One can imagine the twelve going to her often, confident that they would find the succor they needed.

But one cannot be lifted up without lowering himself first. If he stubbornly clings to his pride, man only finds misery amidst frustration. But by humbly and realistically acknowledging his inabilities, relinquishing his bloated sense of self and his herculean grip of ego, man lightens his load so much that he becomes like a little one who abandons his toys to be carried and comforted by the mother he loves so dearly.




Thursday, April 6, 2023

Good Friday Fast


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“Love and sacrifice are closely linked, like the sun and the light. We cannot love without suffering and we cannot suffer without love.” (St. Gianna)

From the time the Passion of Our Lord began in the Garden of Gethsemane, His strength was slowly drained with each new torture: the wounds to the flesh which taxed his vigor; the wounds to the heart which agonized his sensitive soul. Why was it, that if one small drop of the Savior's blood could have redeemed mankind, did he accept the added burdens which made His "soul sorrowful even unto death?" It is because His longing for us is so ardent, His love for us so consuming, that only the gift of His entire being could satisfy His desire.

Though his stamina was strained to its limit, and his heart yearned to be consoled, He did not return insults to those who mocked him—courageously choosing silence—nor spurn those who needed him—giving comfort to the women on the way, providing hope to the penitent thief. He was patient though he was violently abused. He was faithful though He was betrayed. He consoled though he was rejected. He was merciful though now mercy was shown Him.

In carrying the cross, one is tempted to retreat into solitude; resenting requests when his endurance is already spent.  Yet Our Lord tell His disciples,"Take up your cross and follow me." One cannot remain in the same place with his burden. The call is to go forth with the cross; for He expects one to not only carry the load, but to do so while patiently helping others to carry theirs as well.  It is love that allowed Him to persevere and it is love that will allow His disciples to endure as well. Not a passing feeling of passion but an intentional decision of love. A love which girds one's strength allowing him to understand that the extra demands on his soul are necessary to avoid self-pity and prompt a heroic and total gift of self.


                                                    

Thursday, March 2, 2023

March 3rd Fast

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“The world offers you comfort. But you were not made for comfort. You were made for greatness.”  
Pope Benedict XVI

In his letter to the Corinthians, St. Paul wrote,"When I was a child, I used to talk as a child, think as a child, reason as a child; when I became a man, I put aside childish things." Lent offers an opportunity to emerge from childhood and embrace maturity. It is an invitation to detach from the empty pleasures of earth and attach to the hope of heaven. With each penitential season—and really, with each cross— the faithful Christian finds himself in the position of the rich young man in the Gospel who, having affirmed that he kept all the commandments, queries the Lord further as to how he can obtain eternal life:

"And Jesus looking upon him loved him, and said to him, “You lack one thing; go, sell what you have, and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” (Mk. 10:11)

God challenges man to sanctity. St. John Paul II often reminded his flock of the demand of the Gospels:

"Do not be satisfied with mediocrity. The kingdom of heaven is for those who are determined to enter it . . . Do not be afraid to be holy! Have the courage and humility to present yourselves to the world determined to be holy, since full, true freedom is born from holiness. "

The world  tempts man not only in the form of pleasures but excuses as well. Man often spends energy seeking reasons to excuse himself from fasting, prayer and the corporal works of mercy rather than preserving his strength to practice the aforementioned disciplines.  

Perhaps the reason that man yields to self-pitying and rationalizing his behavior is because he refuses to acknowledge that His Creator knows him better than he knows himself and so understands what he is truly capable of. Even the saints, had their doubts and fears when faced with an onerous task. Though St. Teresa of Kolkata was fond of saying—"I know God won't give me more than I can handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much."—she humbly accepted her crosses, shouldering through difficult moments, confident that she was "called to be faithful, not successful."

Let this Lent be a time of great trust that God's grace will be sufficient to carry the cross: those crosses that are freely and lovingly chosen and those that must be patiently accepted. Think not of its present burden but of its eternal merit.

"You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle! Are they not in your book?" (Psalm 56:8)

 

 

Thursday, February 2, 2023

February 3rd Fast

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"Depend upon it, it is better to learn how to live without being angry than to imagine one can moderate and control anger lawfully; and if through weakness and frailty one is overtaken by it, it is far better to put it away forcibly than to parley with it; for give anger ever so little way, and it will become master, like the serpent, who easily works in its body wherever it can once introduce its head. You will ask how to put away anger. My child, when you feel its first movements, collect yourself gently and seriously, not hastily or with impetuosity." 

(Introduction to the Devout Life, St. Francis deSales)

In her well known novel about the March family, Louisa May Alcott illustrates the near-fatal effects of Jo's tempestuous nature when Amy nearly drowns after a vengeful Jo spitefully fails to ensure that she heard Laurie's warning about the thin  ice they skate upon. As Jo tearfully repents of her hardness of heart, she laments that no one is aware of her mighty struggle to overcome this fault when her gentle mother surprises her with this confession:

"You think your temper is the worst in the world; but mine used to be just like it. . . . I've been trying to cure it for forty years and have only succeeded in controlling it. I am angry nearly every day of my life, Jo; but I have learned not to show it; and I still hope to learn not to feel it though it may take another forty years."

As each new day dawns, the store of patience that is replenished through a restful night gives hope to the faithful Christian as he resolves to tackle each task with gentleness. Alas, with each disturbance of the day the simmering pot of impatience slowly increases into the rapid boil of anger, and seemingly nothing can stop a passionate nature from its wrathful storm.  St. Francis de Sales said:

"However, much I have been in the right,‟ he confessed, "I have never shown anger without discovering afterwards that I would have done better by not showing it.”

But each day brings unexpected vexations that try one's patience, and unexpected burdens that add to his plight.  Feeling justified in his reactions, one petulantly defends his tantrums by blaming uncontrollable factors. One may not explode each time, but irascibility creeps in when he allows every annoyance to irritate and irk him.  

Yet he will not learn to conquer this tendency until he recognizes it for the weakness that it is. It requires no effort to fall prey to a temptation to anger, but it requires great strength, endurance, and undoubtedly, God's grace to resist the ravening wolf of fury.  The fiery soul must courageously restrain his inner passions by using that same intense fervor to his advantage in conquering his fault rather than to his detriment in yielding to his impulsiveness. 

 Maintaining one's peace in the midst of constant disturbance is akin to holding down the fort in the midst of the siege. It is not something done on a whim, but a battle that must be prepared for with prayer and practical preparation. Anticipating and understanding the moments or people that particularly pique the soul will aid it in its fight against this fault.  One must implore God's help as he deliberately deflects blows to his peace, patiently plodding along the road to gentleness.

O Jesus, meek and humble of heart, 
make my heart like unto thine!